Is meeting women feels like a WORK to you?
And do you ever feel despite all your hard work you're not
even closer to your goal?
If you answered YES to either of those questions, then READ
ON.
In fact,
dating game can be quite frustrating.
You are interested in a woman that has a boyfriend.
You think everything is going great with a girl and she
stops returning your calls.
Aside from the fact that as the guy you are the one that do
everything in order to move things forward.
YOU have to have the courage to approach.
At first, you have to keep the conversation moving, you have
to escalate physically, you have to get her number and you
have to have a logistical way to take her home, YOU have to
set a date.
Not to mention there are much higher standards for men's
behavior than women.
(Don't get me started on that...let's just think that girls
are allowed to get away with sub-par behavior just because
they are "pretty.")
Being not "extroverted" by nature can be pretty exhausting.
... I have encountered a client that has a problem of
"extroversion fatigue."
I exactly knew what he meant about because I used to
struggle with it before.
Before I started to teach myself about
pick-up, and then
found myself being mentally DRAINED after talking to three
or four women.
I would take a break and rest!
Come to think how strange the situation is, I am supposed to
have fun and relax but instead I am working harder than I
was at my full time job.
I would go home absolutely dead
... from TALKING TO WOMEN!
Does that make any sense???
And there was the overall, general dating fatigue. The
emotional ups and downs, the discouraging results, the
effort I had to make just to get women to hang out with me
or to sleep with me.
It is just like I am having an overtime in my full-time job!
I really had force myself, the first time I got in this
game, to go out and
pickup ALL Day for days on end. (I admit
that I was a nerd and pushed it to the extreme.)
But what can I say, I was very eager to learn all this stuff
(and not to mention extremely hungers for results after
years of sensual frustration).
It's like a professional athletes that pushes themselves in
the gym, that is how I pursue myself.
I was working muscles I had never used before, or to be more
precise, I was forming NEW NEUROPATHWAYS.
If you can relate to any of this, then you are probably
working too hard in your interactions with women.
There are three reasons for this.
First, being socially proactive may be new to you.
I remember the first time I started weight lifting, I don't
have an upper pectoral muscles - the muscle right at the top
of your chest just under your clavicle that make your chest
look big.
Although I have but it was so small and weak and it took me
three weeks to notice them. I was incredibly sore and could
barely move my arms every time I worked them out.
And then I reached the point where the muscle was developed
that I could handle heavy weight without all the fatigue and
soreness. Same as in your mind.
It takes time to develop these new neuro-pathways on your
own. If you're not pushing yourself HARD day in-day out, it
can take awhile, depending on your skill level.
Another reason you may feel social fatigue is because you
think there's too much to do or learn when meeting women.
This is actually a little different from "fatigue." It's
more like feeling overwhelmed.
When you feel overwhelmed by something, it can frazzle your
mind, and lead to a sort of depression, or discouragement,
which may feel like exhaustion if you're not deeply aware.
It's like your body is saying "ugh, it's too much work. I
give up before I can even begin."
This will hold you back from DOING ANYTHING. I suffered from
this kind of feeling when I started putting a lot of my
theories on paper. I looked at my notes and felt like I was
looking at one of those huge, complex physics equations.
It was daunting to think that I had to DO all this stuff
just to have quality women in my life.
The last reason for feeling exhausted in the dating and
mating game is that you are spending too much mental energy
in the wrong places, wasting your focus on stuff that isn't
useful to pickup.
99 percent of men gets it wrong when it comes to attracting
women. The thing is, the woman usually can't tell, because
most men after suffering from a few harsh rejections learn
to hide their inner "stuff."
But of course we can't oppose to the reality that when a guy
is attracted to a girl, he is trying his best just to win
her or at least know if the women likes him too.
Think about the messages we get from the media, our parents
and friends, and women - it's the man's role to IMPRESS the
woman and EARN "getting in bed" from her.
So Pathetic!
I get so mad when I see some commercial with a guy bumbling
around trying to impress some cute girl, and looking like a
fool while she giggles like she's better than him because
she's a girl.
Ok, enough for that protest... my point here is that so many
guys are being screwed when it comes to the control of their
dating game.
But everything will absolutely change if the guy will only
takes time to adjust the way his MIND works when it comes to
attraction.
You need to get the most out of your body and mind so that
it can lead you to the highest level of your interaction
with women and that's what's really attractive.
A MAN AT HIS BEST.
