Tips for Pick-Up Artist

Have you avoided having a conversation to a woman just
because she was talking to another guy?

Or maybe you saw a group of girls with one or two guys with
them and you ASSUMED the guys were cooler than you so you
avoided approaching because you feared embarrassment.

There are two reasons why guys have a fear in talking with
women who were with other guys.

They think that the woman is "with" the guy, and assume he's
her boyfriend.

This shouldn't be the basis of not talking to a woman.
Especially in a social setting like in the bar, where people
meet other people. Plus - that woman is not a "slave" of the
guy or a piece of property, she's a human being and is free
to whomever she chooses to talk to.

Approaching a woman who is "with" a guy often will make you
look extremely confident, and draw out his jealous side,
making him look insecure and weak.

The other reason points to a deep insecurity based on a
simple misconception that's why they avoid talking to woman
who is "with" a guy.

Men tend to be threatened by other men, they assumed that
the "other guy" is more cooler, stronger, or somehow
powerful than they are.

This exist in an ancient survival strategy that has been
passed through human minds.

It's often hard to tell who the more "dominant" human is in
any given interaction. The social hierarchy is very subtle,
and mostly unconscious. So when a male is confronted by
another male, he doesn't know how dominant the other guy is.

He doesn't know if he will be embarrassed verbally, or as
was probably common thousands of years ago, beaten up.

So it's better to play safe by assuming that the other guy
is a threat. Guys that were too bold may have won a few
confrontations, but it will take a single loss to end up
dead or exiled from the game.

And then their genes were taken out of the "game" so to
speak.

So the guys who played it safe, and avoided confrontation
usually lived long enough to reproduce and survive.

The irony of this is that nowadays this hard-wired survival
strategy is the basis for most approach anxiety - guys avoid
women unnecessarily because they are making false
assumptions.

The thing is, most times when you see a woman talking to
another guy in the bar or club, she's not WITH him.

They JUST MET!

I can't tell you how many times I've approached a woman
thinking she was "with" a guy, only to find out he was some
random dude who just approached her. Or he was just a friend
or relative.

I have regrets when I remember that I used to completely not
talking to a woman because I saw her being with another guy.
So many opportunities that I've wasted. This brings me to my
first point:

I SHOULDN'T ASSUME THEY ARE TOGETHER UNTIL I SEE A PHYSICAL
EVIDENCE. I DON'T KNOW WHAT HE MEANS TO THE GIRL.

Approach a woman so that you will know what they really are.
Just remember to be alert and respectful, because in the off
chance they are together, the guy may be the insecure
jealous type and start a physical confrontation.

So be smart and wise - don't just stick around on having a
false judgment.

The idea that the other man can be more "dominant" that you
are is the next important thing that I want to talk about.

The concept of the alpha male is completely outdated. In the
caveman days, the alpha male had real power - he had access
to resources like food, and was physically stronger, so he
could beat up competitors.

But ask yourself if those powers are relevant today. Every
man with a source of income can survive on his own - if
you're reading this, you probably have access to food and
shelter. You're all set.

Plus, in this modern world it is irrelevant to use the
physical strength just to beat people up. It's illegal.

Attacking another person will always end you up defeated
because the police always win.

If you think about it, you are LETTING RANDOM GUYS STOP YOU
FOR NO REASON!

Pardon my French, but who is HE to say who YOU talk to???

I recall all the girls I missed out on because I was afraid
about some DUDE. And it makes me mad remembering that and
knowing that the other guys are dealing with some crap!

When time comes that you're on your deathbed, you are going
to reminisce on all the things you did and didn't do. How
painful would it be to say "I didn't meet that woman because
I was worried of the other guy she's with," or "there were a
lot of beautiful that I could have enjoyed, but I didn't
even try to approached them because I saw them TALKING to
another guy.

I don't want that to be you.

So let's understand it deeply. Seeing the other guy as more
dominant means you don't really understand dominance.

You see, you instantly consider yourself NOT dominant when
you're concerned with who is more dominant. There's a better
focus.

To be dominant, you must first THINK like a dominant man.
And dominant men don't think about who is dominant. So what
do dominant men think about? Whatever it is they are doing
or want.

So when you see another guy talking to a group of girls.
Focus on the girls instead of worrying who is the dominant
between the two of you.

It's proven to be a waste of time if I have to acknowledge
other guys. Out of 10 women, 9 of them doesn't even know the
guy - they just meet him.

Or if they do know the guy, it's because he was a friend of
ONE of the girls, and the rest barely know him.

It's seldom for women to go out with a guy they are dating -
normally they will bring a guy that is more of a
protector/friend because a guy like that is more valuable
when they go out on the town.

And aside from that, if he IS with one of the girls, then it
will be a fair game because it means that he's NOT with the
other girls.

When you are concerned with who's the alpha male, you are by
definition NOT the alpha male. In fact, it's questionable
whether alpha males truly exist in the modern world.

Have your focus in a USEFUL place and don't assume anything.
And don't let some random guy prevent you from enjoying YOUR
LIFE!