Tips for Pick-Up Artist

Dating Tips for Men: Keeping the Girl

Tue, 29 Jul 2008 19:48:23 +0000

Just when I know how to escalate and get good with women quickly, I think of those women I slept with but couldn't keep around.

And that is quite depressing.

So many women had the potential to be great girlfriends.

But I had my brain up my butt.

... that may sounds a little harsh.

But it comes to TWO different problems:

First, I was trying to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I've never fully recovered. But I've stopped trying to recover. And that's what's made me move past this "proving myself" thing.

I just accepted who I am.

Sure, I like comic books and video games.

But...

Do you think women have cooler interests?

Is getting drunk, Myspace and shopping is cooler than what I'm into?

It's all are the same.

Self-acceptance is what really matters.

A woman won't accept you if you don't accept yourself.

Can you imagine a woman wanting to be your girlfriend when you don't like yourself?

She will HATE your presence and don't want to be around you.

Because you can't really like a woman, if you don't like yourself. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who do you think wants to date a loser?

Although it sounds easy but self-acceptance is rare. How often do you hear people say, "I don't care what anyone thinks of me!"

Almost NO ONE accepts themselves completely, that's in my experience.

And I am one of them.

The degree to which you accept yourself is the degree to which women find you attractive, and people want to be around you.

It can be really hard to accept yourself completely. The creep in old beliefs telling you, you are not enough, that you must be more than you are now.

But the degree to which you eliminate these thoughts is the degree to which your game becomes better.

Because game is really about being yourself, not doubting yourself. And game doesn't stop after your opener, after "mating", after a few dates. It never stops.

Because it is you.

You are not separate from your game.

Your game IS YOU. This game is the degree to which you can demonstrates who you are.

You might be thinking "But I'm insecure, nervous and awkward." I disagree. That's not you.

That is the distorted you.

That's you trying to come out, but your old mental habits and ego stop you in expressing what you really want to express.

Before I go deeper to that, I want to skip to the second reason why I couldn't keep women around after I slept with them.

I wasn't aware of shaping.

Shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. You can't shape if you don't know what you want. The extension of self-acceptance is knowing what you want.

In fact, it's self-acceptance, applied to others. You know what you like, and you encourage women to be that for you.

As you know, women are very flexible. They have many sides that they can reveal to a man. Guys usually tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than a guy.

But it's not really her fault. She's just doing what she's told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.

So if you come to a woman and treat her like she's on a pedestal, she will act accordingly.

If you approach her and treat her like she's lucky you talked to her, she'll feel that way.

Likewise, after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.

This was tackled deeper in our workshop. I've developed a lot of things to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.

Women are different from each other. Like for instance, I may want a girl to be just a partner in bed. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what you want.

I remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I used to have.

And how frustrating it was to not see those women again using all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist.

But once I began to accept myself and figure out what I wanted, it all came together.

The Attraction Code is all about finding out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the girls you want to meet, sleep with, and date.

The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE if you are struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine.

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Mon, 21 Jul 2008 18:56:46 +0000

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How to Manage Your Time when Meeting Women

Thu, 17 Jul 2008 20:28:33 +0000

Dating can be your best pal.

...OR your worst adversary.

Most of the time, a man can feel like a slave
to his natural need to procreate.

Then there goes a common quote, "He thinks
with his... You know."

Well it is hard NOT think that way if you are
physically unsatisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We are doers, and need to achieve things and
affect the world in a positive way.

One of the biggest challenges I've personally
faced is balancing the two - my urges and
achieving my goals.

When you are single, dating can take a lot of
time. If you don't know what you're doing,
women will suck away at your time.

Before you know it, you are spending hours in
the park, feeding the birds and cuddling...
there's nothing wrong with spending a quality
time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU

DON'T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, and so do women.

In fact, it's their NATURE to take up a man's
time - it's her way of getting you to invest
in her. That way there's less chance of you
leaving if she gets pregnant (this comes from
our caveman days, so to speak).

It is really tricky to manage your time with
women. You see, giving their time to women is
what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are
"givers." They like to please women, protect
them, and give them good feelings.

Men also have a urges that can completely take
over your thoughts.

Both of these things can get of you making the
most of your life, your time.

Now take a minute to ask yourself about this,
"WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?"

Now I know it wasn't about "money," or
"control over my life," or "lots of my free
time."

It was probably something like "feeling of
safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure,
excitement, relaxation, make her smile or feel
good about herself, etc."

There are two ways that I think why men have
problems with how they use their time with
women.

First, they overcompensate with other stuff -
like spending too much time or money on a
woman because they think that the gifts they

REALLY wanted to give aren't that valuable.

Second, men think that they are "getting"
something valuable when a woman spends her
time with them.

Guys was brainwash by the society to believe
that women are a prize to attain, and that
there's some inherent value in a pretty face.

It's a LIE!

The best thing is to see women for what they
are, nothing more, nothing less. They are
cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that
important, AND THEY CAN'T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!

Now it can be really hard to break out of this
mental prison of feeling inferior to women.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to
notice because you've been doing them for
years.

Young men are taught that their urges is
crude and silly, and that it is just a favor
that women ALLOWS them to mate with them.

There's a syndrome that I call a "doofus dad"
syndrome. There's another societal factor going
on, . In almost every TV commercial and
sitcom, the "dad" or "boyfriend" or "husband"
is a dopey, incompetent goof, and the
mom/daughter/girlfriend/wife has to use her
superior intelligence to fix the situation.

This will bring to the idea that the time of
the women is more valuable than men because of
the perception that women are "better."

You will feel obligated to give a woman a LOT
OF TIME if your time is not so valuable.

But here's the thing - if you are giving a
woman too much time, you won't be present for
most of that time. You will be distracted,
resentful, you will give her your "half-assed"
attention.

I just realize this after analyzing lots of
dates I went on women.

After that I started to give my FULL ATTENTION
to women even though I'm only giving a smaller
amounts of my time.

Not only did this make our time better, it
created MASSIVE ATTRACTION because I left
women craving more.

Now my women can't get enough of me - in fact,
I don't GIVE THEM "enough."

You see, "enough" would mean, "overexposure"
to me, and women can't be pulled to what they
already have.

The proper way to manage your time is by being
HONEST. And I don't recommend you to play
games with women and pretend to be busy or
whatever.

No need of games, just be real with the girl -
and don't spend more time that you want.

Enjoy whatever free time you have with women
but still with focus on your personal goals.

Be the man on the go.

Now in a short amount of time it requires that
you are able to meet a lot of women, which

I'll have to cover in another newsletter.

It makes me sad to see men waste their lives
chasing and "putting up with" women, and then
they are buried in their coffin ALONE.

Women aren't property that you can keep or
somehow take with you when you die. Think
about that.

You can't "keep" a woman by investing all your
time with her.

One more thing here - if you start being
honest with the amount of time you are willing
give to a woman, you may feel GUILTY.

It either she will make you feel guilty or you
will feel it on your own. That's ok, it just
means that you have a weak focus.

If you are following your true ways, it will
usually from the social norm.

If you are in the mental habit of adopting the
values others try to impose onto you, you will
most likely experience some discomfort,
tension, guilt, even loneliness at first.

That's why I set and develop the Attraction
Code. It's all about self-control, finding
true path, and letting the real 'you' emerge
from within.

And no, we don't try to impose our values or
goals onto you. We think you'll be able to do
that for yourself, given the proper guidance.

Vin

Dating Game: Attracting a "10"

Sun, 13 Jul 2008 23:30:55 +0000

If you are interested in meeting, attracting and keeping a "10", then you should read this letter.

But before anything else, let's go waaaay back...

It was in my high school, that there was a girl in my class who was seems so perfect.

She was smart, cool, and so beautiful it was hard to look at her (and yet I couldn't look away)...

She was one of the popular kids, but was friendly to everyone.

Occasionally we talked and as I look back I realize that we were flirting (I was so stupid to realize at that time).

I badly wanted to ask her to a senior prom but I chickened out at the last minute.

A few years later I realized she had a crush on me all senior year.

I have talked to lot of men and this seems a common experience to them. they missed an opportunity to meet this ONE SPECIAL WOMAN who you crushed on from afar, or the girl had broke their heart...

Ah, the hard to tame "10," a perfect girl that every guy dream of but never seems to have it.

I have a lot to say about the concept of "10's," In deeper sense they are another "breed" of women, but it is on the way they think that makes them so.

Understanding the reality of the extremely beautiful women and understanding your own fascination for a perfect women will help you resolve this conundrum, and might even help you in finding your "perfect girl."

First of all, the concept of a "10" is a myth. There is no such thing as a perfect human being. No woman is more "valuable" just because she looks nicer than other women.

A woman that turns you on and have a great chemistry with you is the only true "10" and is the one that's perfect for you.

Following this reasoning, the world is full of 10's, given you have the skills to meet a lot of women and create options for yourself.

Treating a woman differently than other women just because she is prettier is a recipe for failure.

Why?

Because a lot of guys do that.

A woman knows what you're thinking and sees you as shallow.

But there definitely are certain women that seem on another "level" of beauty than the rest. These women get treated much differently than other women.

This is important to understand so that you know how to deal with these kinds of women.

As what I've said, you shouldn't treat women "differently."

Let me clear this up.

You shouldn't treat them BETTER than other women. But there are a couple things you need to know.

First, she don't like a guy that chases her for her looks alone.

More than anything else, a woman values a guy that appreciates her personality.

Now for the sake of yours, I''ll be giving you a heads up.

There are two types of "10's."

The high self-esteem, and the low self-esteem.

The pretty common is the low self-esteem 10's. Women here have a guilt complex. Because they are used to being wanted for their looks, but they know that they didn't EARN that attention.

In fact, most of their lives are probably coasted, and are in complete dumbasses.

It may sound harsh but I call it like that.

These women take away their validation will make them flip out and do anything to get it back. They also respond to jerk-behavior.

Anything.

(Aside from that, these women usually suck in bed and are total head cases when you get involved with them.)

Now high self-esteem 10's are women that have had a taste of the elite -they realized early on that high levels of society were attainable to them, and they made an effort to be successful, intelligent, and make the most of their lives.

These women know that they are just a little closer to a great life than everyone else, and so they are motivated to put in the extra effort.

Usually these women have good attitudes, are intelligent, have a direction in life and have lots of interests beyond being clubbing.

Actually, most of beautiful women I've dated didn't even go to the club. They like to spend their evenings being with their families, reading, or having a nice dinner with friends (or studying if they were in college).

And here's another interesting thing. These women are single for long periods of time while in-between boyfriends. Why?

Because they have high standards for themselves, and since most guys are either too intimidated to ask them out, or act too needy and pathetic around them, it's rare that they meet another man who is on their level.

But here's the good news. These women are the easiest to attract when you understand The Attraction Code.

The Attraction Code is about being a "male 10," the best man you can be.

When you start to embody the Attraction Code you will surely notice an interesting thing.

Occasionally women that are less attractive will be rude to you and you'll get an odd responses from them- that is because they know they're not on your level - I call this as Auto-Rejection Mechanism. Some girls will try to protect themselves from being rejected by you, by rejecting YOU first.

But the most attractive, cool women will respond much differently...you'll be amazed to see the most beautiful women warm right up to you as soon as you approach - whether on the street or in the bar - because they can see that you are on their "level."

The woman will thinks "finally, a guy who can hang with me; he's confident and treats me like a real person. And he's the only guy who's actually tried to talk to me today, instead of whistling from his car."

The Attraction Code is meant for these kinds of women. Of course you'll also enjoy plenty of "adventures" with all kinds of women, but ultimately this is about having the option of dating the hottest, highest quality women.

There are plenty of 10's out there waiting for you.

Don't spend another year of your life missing out.

Vin

Dating Tips: The Purpose of Storytelling

Mon, 07 Jul 2008 00:41:01 +0000

Today I want to talk about STORYTELLING. This subject is very important and powerful in meeting and holding the interest of not only in women but anyone in your life.

Once it is used correctly, it can make your desirability with women sky rocket.

But before I proceed to the tips and secrets behind successful story telling and how to construct a powerful story (which will be covered more in depth in Part II) I want to clear up a few myths when it comes to the matter of story telling.

Myth #1: My stories have to be true and about me.

Now this is ultimately up for you to decide what important here is on how you keep the conversation fun and entertaining. Apply the right story telling techniques, and can keep the conversation moving, then your story does not have to be true.

Even if the women knows that your story is not true, if you kept it fun, she will be entertained and most likely run with new conversation topics developed from your stories.

I am not encouraging you to lie though, the most powerful stories are ones that are true and come from a place of emotion.

You can be so over the top with stories where the unbelievably becomes so fun that she gets involved and becomes part of a newly painted reality that you and the girl get to share and more importantly create together. (This becomes a key factor in "Role Playing" and by mastering storytelling, your creativity in "Role Play Conversations" raises but sadly, the subject of role playing will have to be saved for a later issue.)

However I think the biggest misconception is not whether the stories have to be true, but is more about whether or not they have to be about the story teller.

One of the main purpose of story telling is to communicate to the listener about you. Surprisingly, it is easier to display things about yourself by how you tell a story, not the actual content of it.

Through the power of expressions, energy, and vivid language, you can convey to your listeners such things as, dominance, humor, interests, and over all personality.

In applying the proper techniques of a story, you should be able to repeat what you heard on the news but in such a fashion that directly makes you more interesting and displays your personality.

Myth #2: As you get better with women you become less dependent on story telling.

Now there is some truth to this myth in the sense that you do not go into interactions with prescripted stories as much as you may starting out. However, it is through the skills that storytelling develops that make you less dependent.

Instead of going into in interaction with a story you have made up or written down and rehearsed, you are able to share any topic in an interesting way that makes people listen.

This skill is enhanced by applying the arts of storytelling and is one of the main reasons learning and mastering storytelling is a great way to improve not only your skills with women, but your overall social skills.

What is storytelling and why is it important?

Storytelling is the direct means of communication when highlighting important parts of your life to the listener. Not only through context, but through delivery.

The very important part storytelling is it leads you in getting to know someone and the great thing about telling a story, is that it creates so many other subject matters to talk about and that a story is almost always followed by another story.

If you are familiar with "The Canterbury Tales" by Geoffrey Chaucer, you will see how each story is molded by the one told before it and by who told the story. (Don't worry; your stories don't have to have a rhyme scheme during the interaction like many of Chaucer's do)

Here are some of the reasons why storytelling is important and if you are not currently utilizing storytelling then consider these following facts:

*Storytelling is a great way to save dying conversations

This is one of the most common problems that I see with many guys. They start with a great interaction and then conversation starts to die and there it produce an awkward silence. So this is a great time to bust out a story from your arsenal and revive the interaction.

Knowing you are armed with a story creates more approach confidence when entering an interaction.

People are afraid to enter interactions because of the fear of running out of things to say. By developing a great story or two and keeping them in your back pocket for when you need them creates a great since of confidence during the initial approach and can really help limit the anxiety that one gets when approaching a beautiful women. You are guaranteed that the interaction will last at least the length of your story.

*Storytelling develops stronger social skills

This is one of the biggest reasons that I like to make sure everyone masters storytelling. Through storytelling you learn to capture the entire attention of the group. Also you directly convey your personality and it gets you accustomed to doing so. The skills that are developed from strong storytelling directly carry over into your social personality that make all conversation with you more exciting and vivid. The expressiveness you show in stories ties into your future interactions and directly improves your social personality.

*You can convey things through storytelling that you normally could not say.

There may be some interesting details of your life that said outside the context of a story may come off as bragging. But in a story, these little details are never the subject of the story thus they remain subtle but are powerful when displaying aspects of your identity.

*Storytelling is a great way to display dominance

When you are telling a story the right way, all eyes are on you, you are the center of attention, and everyone lingers off your next word. Holding the attention of the group through storytelling puts you in a dominant frame of you being the leader of the interaction and everyone else being the listener, waiting to see where you take the group next.

What you convey through your stories is how you will be remembered.

Unlike most things you say during an interaction, a good story is unforgettable. How many times have you had someone tell you about some crazy story that one of their friends told them? Stories have been passed down for ages; it is an old custom and still exists till this day. The girl should be able to look back on the interaction and be like "Oh yeah, that was the guy who (did whatever interesting activity that relates to you)."

Now that you have an idea of why storytelling is so effective and what you should be aiming for when telling a story we are going to work on creating your very own powerful stories that cannot be ignored. All this will be covered in Part II of this newsletter, but there is an exercise I want you to do right now so you can directly apply all the tips and tactics to create an amazing story.

Exercise 1: Write down anywhere from seven to ten moments in your life that you feel changed or defined who you are.

If you have a funny story then that is just a humorous time then you can feel free to include that. But even if the story does not seem major, just entertaining, the fact that you can remember it means it has a bigger effect than you realize.

This can be happy, fun, or even sad (not depressing) but we do learn through negative experiences. We will eventually cut these down to just a couple stories in Part II but for now I just want you to get into the habit of taking note of interesting experiences in your life.

Ideas: Vacations, Life/Death Experiences, an unforgettable concert or sporting event, a moment you succeeded, something funny that happened to you or a friend.

Now I know that there are going to be people that say they have no interesting stories. This is just not the truth; everyone has something interesting that has shaped who they are. Do not be modest; even if it's a silly story write it down. You can't be afraid to share a story, sometimes they are hard to think of and if you really can't think of a past story, starting paying more attention to your every day life. And if you still can’t think of one then go take a vacation, you will return with hundreds of them.

So many things happen in one day that people don't even think would be a story. But every past event being told is a story. There is no excuse not to have one.

Exercise Two: Write down at least 5 things that you would like people to know about you.

This is going to tie into personality conveying. Think of the things that you would like any friend or new acquaintance to know about you. These are the things that directly relate to your identity and make you who you are. Do not be surprised if these things are directly related in some way to the stories you wrote down in exercise one.

Ideas: Hobbies, Sports you play, instruments you play, your job, your goals, your skills and achievements.

Now save this list, we are going to use it a lot in Part II of this newsletter to create some super powerful stories that you can always rely on. Also I will further go into the skills of storytelling and how to use them to make every story and conversation more interesting.

I am going to do this very exercise along with you guys so you will get to see my story end product as well.

Just keep an eye out for the next letter and great ready to really take storytelling to the next level.

The Attraction Code

Fri, 27 Jun 2008 01:15:35 +0000

http://www.vindicarlo.com The Attraction code video. Vin DiCarlo talks about how he developed his book, The Attraction Code. For more information about the contents of the book and to sign up for a free 45 minute masterclass introduction to the attraction code visit www.AttractionCodeBook.com.

Useful Mindsets for Disarming Male Competition

Tue, 24 Jun 2008 23:32:35 +0000

Have you avoided having a conversation to a woman just
because she was talking to another guy?

Or maybe you saw a group of girls with one or two guys with
them and you ASSUMED the guys were cooler than you so you
avoided approaching because you feared embarrassment.

There are two reasons why guys have a fear in talking with
women who were with other guys.

They think that the woman is "with" the guy, and assume he's
her boyfriend.

This shouldn't be the basis of not talking to a woman.
Especially in a social setting like in the bar, where people
meet other people. Plus - that woman is not a "slave" of the
guy or a piece of property, she's a human being and is free
to whomever she chooses to talk to.

Approaching a woman who is "with" a guy often will make you
look extremely confident, and draw out his jealous side,
making him look insecure and weak.

The other reason points to a deep insecurity based on a
simple misconception that's why they avoid talking to woman
who is "with" a guy.

Men tend to be threatened by other men, they assumed that
the "other guy" is more cooler, stronger, or somehow
powerful than they are.

This exist in an ancient survival strategy that has been
passed through human minds.

It's often hard to tell who the more "dominant" human is in
any given interaction. The social hierarchy is very subtle,
and mostly unconscious. So when a male is confronted by
another male, he doesn't know how dominant the other guy is.

He doesn't know if he will be embarrassed verbally, or as
was probably common thousands of years ago, beaten up.

So it's better to play safe by assuming that the other guy
is a threat. Guys that were too bold may have won a few
confrontations, but it will take a single loss to end up
dead or exiled from the game.

And then their genes were taken out of the "game" so to
speak.

So the guys who played it safe, and avoided confrontation
usually lived long enough to reproduce and survive.

The irony of this is that nowadays this hard-wired survival
strategy is the basis for most approach anxiety - guys avoid
women unnecessarily because they are making false
assumptions.

The thing is, most times when you see a woman talking to
another guy in the bar or club, she's not WITH him.

They JUST MET!

I can't tell you how many times I've approached a woman
thinking she was "with" a guy, only to find out he was some
random dude who just approached her. Or he was just a friend
or relative.

I have regrets when I remember that I used to completely not
talking to a woman because I saw her being with another guy.
So many opportunities that I've wasted. This brings me to my
first point:

I SHOULDN'T ASSUME THEY ARE TOGETHER UNTIL I SEE A PHYSICAL
EVIDENCE. I DON'T KNOW WHAT HE MEANS TO THE GIRL.

Approach a woman so that you will know what they really are.
Just remember to be alert and respectful, because in the off
chance they are together, the guy may be the insecure
jealous type and start a physical confrontation.

So be smart and wise - don't just stick around on having a
false judgment.

The idea that the other man can be more "dominant" that you
are is the next important thing that I want to talk about.

The concept of the alpha male is completely outdated. In the
caveman days, the alpha male had real power - he had access
to resources like food, and was physically stronger, so he
could beat up competitors.

But ask yourself if those powers are relevant today. Every
man with a source of income can survive on his own - if
you're reading this, you probably have access to food and
shelter. You're all set.

Plus, in this modern world it is irrelevant to use the
physical strength just to beat people up. It's illegal.

Attacking another person will always end you up defeated
because the police always win.

If you think about it, you are LETTING RANDOM GUYS STOP YOU
FOR NO REASON!

Pardon my French, but who is HE to say who YOU talk to???

I recall all the girls I missed out on because I was afraid
about some DUDE. And it makes me mad remembering that and
knowing that the other guys are dealing with some crap!

When time comes that you're on your deathbed, you are going
to reminisce on all the things you did and didn't do. How
painful would it be to say "I didn't meet that woman because
I was worried of the other guy she's with," or "there were a
lot of beautiful that I could have enjoyed, but I didn't
even try to approached them because I saw them TALKING to
another guy.

I don't want that to be you.

So let's understand it deeply. Seeing the other guy as more
dominant means you don't really understand dominance.

You see, you instantly consider yourself NOT dominant when
you're concerned with who is more dominant. There's a better
focus.

To be dominant, you must first THINK like a dominant man.
And dominant men don't think about who is dominant. So what
do dominant men think about? Whatever it is they are doing
or want.

So when you see another guy talking to a group of girls.
Focus on the girls instead of worrying who is the dominant
between the two of you.

It's proven to be a waste of time if I have to acknowledge
other guys. Out of 10 women, 9 of them doesn't even know the
guy - they just meet him.

Or if they do know the guy, it's because he was a friend of
ONE of the girls, and the rest barely know him.

It's seldom for women to go out with a guy they are dating -
normally they will bring a guy that is more of a
protector/friend because a guy like that is more valuable
when they go out on the town.

And aside from that, if he IS with one of the girls, then it
will be a fair game because it means that he's NOT with the
other girls.

When you are concerned with who's the alpha male, you are by
definition NOT the alpha male. In fact, it's questionable
whether alpha males truly exist in the modern world.

Have your focus in a USEFUL place and don't assume anything.
And don't let some random guy prevent you from enjoying YOUR
LIFE!

Does it Feel like WORK Meeting Women?

Wed, 18 Jun 2008 01:18:35 +0000

Is meeting women feels like a WORK to you?

And do you ever feel despite all your hard work you're not
even closer to your goal?

If you answered YES to either of those questions, then READ
ON.

In fact, dating game can be quite frustrating.

You are interested in a woman that has a boyfriend.

You think everything is going great with a girl and she
stops returning your calls.

Aside from the fact that as the guy you are the one that do
everything in order to move things forward.

YOU have to have the courage to approach.

At first, you have to keep the conversation moving, you have
to escalate physically, you have to get her number and you
have to have a logistical way to take her home, YOU have to
set a date.

Not to mention there are much higher standards for men's
behavior than women.

(Don't get me started on that...let's just think that girls
are allowed to get away with sub-par behavior just because
they are "pretty.")

Being not "extroverted" by nature can be pretty exhausting.

... I have encountered a client that has a problem of
"extroversion fatigue."

I exactly knew what he meant about because I used to
struggle with it before.

Before I started to teach myself about pick-up, and then
found myself being mentally DRAINED after talking to three
or four women.

I would take a break and rest!

Come to think how strange the situation is, I am supposed to
have fun and relax but instead I am working harder than I
was at my full time job.

I would go home absolutely dead

... from TALKING TO WOMEN!

Does that make any sense???

And there was the overall, general dating fatigue. The
emotional ups and downs, the discouraging results, the
effort I had to make just to get women to hang out with me
or to sleep with me.

It is just like I am having an overtime in my full-time job!

I really had force myself, the first time I got in this
game, to go out and pickup ALL Day for days on end. (I admit
that I was a nerd and pushed it to the extreme.)

But what can I say, I was very eager to learn all this stuff
(and not to mention extremely hungers for results after
years of sensual frustration).

It's like a professional athletes that pushes themselves in
the gym, that is how I pursue myself.

I was working muscles I had never used before, or to be more
precise, I was forming NEW NEUROPATHWAYS.

If you can relate to any of this, then you are probably
working too hard in your interactions with women.

There are three reasons for this.

First, being socially proactive may be new to you.

I remember the first time I started weight lifting, I don't
have an upper pectoral muscles - the muscle right at the top
of your chest just under your clavicle that make your chest
look big.

Although I have but it was so small and weak and it took me
three weeks to notice them. I was incredibly sore and could
barely move my arms every time I worked them out.

And then I reached the point where the muscle was developed
that I could handle heavy weight without all the fatigue and
soreness. Same as in your mind.

It takes time to develop these new neuro-pathways on your
own. If you're not pushing yourself HARD day in-day out, it
can take awhile, depending on your skill level.

Another reason you may feel social fatigue is because you
think there's too much to do or learn when meeting women.

This is actually a little different from "fatigue." It's
more like feeling overwhelmed.

When you feel overwhelmed by something, it can frazzle your
mind, and lead to a sort of depression, or discouragement,
which may feel like exhaustion if you're not deeply aware.
It's like your body is saying "ugh, it's too much work. I
give up before I can even begin."

This will hold you back from DOING ANYTHING. I suffered from
this kind of feeling when I started putting a lot of my
theories on paper. I looked at my notes and felt like I was
looking at one of those huge, complex physics equations.

It was daunting to think that I had to DO all this stuff
just to have quality women in my life.

The last reason for feeling exhausted in the dating and
mating game is that you are spending too much mental energy
in the wrong places, wasting your focus on stuff that isn't
useful to pickup.

99 percent of men gets it wrong when it comes to attracting
women. The thing is, the woman usually can't tell, because
most men after suffering from a few harsh rejections learn
to hide their inner "stuff."

But of course we can't oppose to the reality that when a guy
is attracted to a girl, he is trying his best just to win
her or at least know if the women likes him too.

Think about the messages we get from the media, our parents
and friends, and women - it's the man's role to IMPRESS the
woman and EARN "getting in bed" from her.

So Pathetic!

I get so mad when I see some commercial with a guy bumbling
around trying to impress some cute girl, and looking like a
fool while she giggles like she's better than him because
she's a girl.

Ok, enough for that protest... my point here is that so many
guys are being screwed when it comes to the control of their
dating game.

But everything will absolutely change if the guy will only
takes time to adjust the way his MIND works when it comes to
attraction.

You need to get the most out of your body and mind so that
it can lead you to the highest level of your interaction
with women and that's what's really attractive.

A MAN AT HIS BEST.

The Same Night Lays of the pick-Up Artist

Tue, 10 Jun 2008 23:45:08 +0000

Let me share with you the topic about One Night Stand

Before I don't really know how to do the one night stands,
and I started to understand how easy it is to apply after I
have used a couple of solid pickups.

"Bad belief overhaul" is what I can say when I look back on
those things that I did.

I started to anticipate that women wants sex and wanting me.

I also started to think of myself as an attractive,
desirable guy (even though I'm far from what's typically
considered good-looking).

The main goal, of about 75% of my students, is to sleep with
as many women as possible.

And the remaining are looking for someone special that
really suits in their lifestyle. As what I have said, this
goal is not mutually exclusive.

You see, in order to find that special girl and to have the
best choice, you should see and go out with a bunch of good
women.

It would be impossible to meet your someone special if you
don't socialize and meet with a bunch of good women.

There's a very common phase that every good pickup artist
goes through when he gets started. He begins learning new
ways of thinking and behaving, and lo and behold, he starts
meeting and sleeping with a LOT OF WOMEN.

Just like a kid in a candy store, making a full advantage of
his new powers!

In order for me to snap out of my old way of thinking, a
period of learning is necessary so that I can start to
internalize my new reality. That I can be attractive and
desirable to women and above all, women will be obsess to
sleep with me.

So it's important that you have a few really fast, casual
sensual encounters, in order to get the ball rolling on
forming new beliefs.

I'm referring to a same day lays or popularly known as "ONS"
One-Night Stand.

Now if you've never had a one night stand, or maybe got
lucky a couple of times when you were drunk, having a
one-night 'stands at-will' can seem just as out-of-reach as
having a great girlfriend.

Actually if you know what you are doing, it will be all
easy.

The crappy thing is, a lot of guys make it WAY too hard on
themselves, and never get those initial sexual experiences
that help them to really feel like a "natural."

If you're going though with this newsletter, then you really
want to MASTER THE GAME aside from getting BETTER with
woman.

Mastery of the game comes from within and it start right
through your mindset and leads to a visible results that
form New Beliefs in your mind.

These new beliefs become the foundation for your new
reality, where you naturally attract women without even
thinking about it.

First of all, you can't always get the hottest woman in the
venue to go home with you for a one-night stand.

You can get a solid number from her, but its not a guarantee
that you can take her home because whether or not a woman is
open to going home with a guy, it varies widely in
particular night.

However, there are LOTS of horny women moving around the
clubs and bar anytime of the day that are open in getting
lay that same day or night. And all you have to do is have a
knowledge and ability to spot them.

The things that I look in spotting them are in the way how
they dressed, how much make-up they put on their face and
other things that relates to how they look physically.
Remember that there is a reason why women exert a lot of
effort in order to look beautiful.

They want to be approached. This of course, isn't always
true, but is generally the case.

Another thing that you can spot that a woman is looking for
attention is when she is being so loud and animated.

Lastly, another good prospect are woman that are looking
around the room more than the other girls that she's with.
Also a group of two or three women all standing around with
blank expressions, scoping the room are another prospect.

These women are obviously making themselves out there,
waiting to be notice by men.

Now you have to take this in mind -- Avoid running your
clever routines into full-stream and your cocky frame
control stuff when approaching those women.

Just be light, social, and let them know you are interested
in meeting them. A simple "hey, you guys look great tonight.
Special occasion?" is enough.

You should not openly discuss to the woman that you are
looking to take her home and get her into bed. Because, if
you talk about that, you're putting a woman to a point where
is to agree to implicitly bang with you.

Rather you want to build sensual tension, as we discuss
heavily in our workshops.

This is against her "rules" and will force her to keep you
at a distance. You're also going to need logistical
information, so that you can figure out how to get her back
to your place when the time comes.

The important thing here is to act as NOT trying to pick her
up and eliminating any overt sensual intention.

You must have the willingness to control the situation and
knows how to enjoy while having the escalation in the right
way.

This is how it will works although it may sound that counter
intuitive.

You must trust that women wants to be in bed and there are a
lot of women in the club, bar or in any venue that wants to
get a same day lay.

Some won't, but some will, and that's why it's key that you
get a sense of what to look for, and how to proceed.

I know you don't what to invest a lot of your time to pick
the right girl and then just mess it up after a long
interaction. Or to spend your time to a wrong girl or worse.

It will just be a waste of time.

Tips for Pick-Up Artist

Mon, 12 May 2008 01:03:42 +0000

There are guys that the first thing they want to do when they meet a woman is show her that they understand GAME.

There they'll start talking about evolution, alpha males, how women will always cheat on their boyfriends, how they know women are more intimate than guys etc.

This time, I'll refer to that as nonsense as "The Talk of Death".

Let me explain why, and also give you an idea of what to do instead.

Generally, as what I have learn in pick-up, this kind of things will make a very poor conversation topics with women. Especially hot ones.

This might work with the social anthropologist, but not to a woman that any man in his right mind would be attracted to,

Now there are a few major things wrong with this strategy:

(Oh BTW - if you do happen to meet a girl that likes this kind of stuff, by all means talk about it, I'm just saying it should not be used as an strategy for attraction for most of the female population)

1. This will make a woman on the defensive. It's exactly like one country revealing it's battle plans to another country that it is at war with.

It shows that you are "thinking too much" about the dynamic, which not only is a big turn off, but also makes her think you're going to be a mind-trip. Not good.

2. Chances are, the woman's awareness level is about 10% of yours.

Especially if you're keeping up on my newsletters.

This is a concept called "Stepped Awareness".

Have you ever tried played a song you liked for a friend and they just didn't get it?

It's because their awareness didn't go through the same process that yours had - and resulted in you really liking the song...

To a woman who spends the most of her time thinking about new shoes, celebrities and her problems with her boss, your talk about "the unique mating patters of the bonobo apes and how it relates to girls in the club" it's just too weird and alien for her.

This is the same reason why you'll sometimes see the biggest AFC ever with a smoking hot woman. He's normal, and she can easily introduce him to her friends without embarrassment!

3. To a woman that does understand it; you talking about it make it seem like a big deal, when it should be plainly obvious.

5-10% of women actually DO get this stuff. It's obvious, intuitive and accepted for them.

These women tend to also like women, capable of open relationships, and generally a lot of fun.

But here's the thing - the guys they end up dating also get this stuff intuitively.

And when you get something intuitively, you'll never go out of your way to convince another person of it, or explain it like it's a big revelation!

So the moment you do it, the women who are most eligible for the lifestyle you're looking for, will instantly disqualify you.

So here's what you should do...

Well - one of the most powerful techniques I use is this:

**Understand society's programming, understand a woman's specific programming, and appear to be under the exact same programming.**

Keep your knowledge of reality to yourself (and of course, if you figure out anything great, I would appreciate it if you share it on my forum)

You're going to see a big change in your game.

Synopsis for the Mystery's the Pick-Up Artist Show

Fri, 04 Jan 2008 00:44:02 +0000

Hey guys! Let me share with you what my synopsis and predictions about the recent episode of the Mystery's the Pick-Up Artist which was aired on VH1 a few weeks ago.

First, here's what I didn't liked:

Mystery not knowing why some of his students fail... He's so attached to his structured method, he literally has blind spots as to why his students get blown out... "Yeah he should have used a false time constraint". How about his lame body language, complete lack of masculine vibe and messed up compliance ratios?

Using 4 year old, tired-out material, like "flossing before you brush etc.." Come on, we stopped using that stuff 3 years ago for good reason! LAME, non-sensual conversation that goes nowhere! Sure you'll get the woman to answer your question, but that's not what I call progress. If you're going to have the guys memorizing routines, why not make them powerful, masculine and effective?

J-Dog's hair. I don't think I need to go into this. Looks like the poor dude passed out on a park bench in the middle of a graffiti contest. While there were certainly things about this show that bug the working pick up artist in me, I have to hand it to Mystery and VH1 for presenting the community in a good light to a mainstream audience.

Now here's what I liked:

The Students. I love pick up students in general, they're always so eager to learn, share a common interest with me, and so grateful for the even the smallest amounts of improvement they make. Students are hands down the #1 reason why I do what I do.

The ridiculous Outfits of Mystery. No one can peacock like mystery, hands down. And the shows budget really allows for some fancy stuff. I dig it. Peacocking that hard is actually quite a challenge. Don't believe me? Go to your local lair and look at all the guys who try it and get it wrong. It's a trainwreck.

The Challenges. Creative, fun and entertaining. Winner of one contest gets to walk around with a cute puppy in the next. Hillarious.

Here's some of my predictions for the four guys left,:

Joe: I think this guy has got serious potential on the show. He's got the attitude down, but he's the type that will get a certain level of success and become complacent. He'll get a girlfriend and develop his social circle and work off that. Not TRUE master pua material. I just don't see the kind of passion/drive that would carry him to Master PUAdom. He may do well on the show, however, just due to the lack of competition.

Brady: Tall, good looking, fast learner. He's chill, makes steady progress. His use of corny material, and constant second guessing of himself is what's holding himself back. If he just chills out and acts NORMAL he'll be on fire. Again though, like joe, will probably become complacent at a certain level.

Alvaro: This guy COULD become a master pua, but not in a few weeks, and not under Mystery's tuleage. He's got that "inner flame" that drives him to excel at different things, but he's going to need to really work to get consistent, and kill his approach anxiety and fear. He's still got the brakes on. The minute he gets past that, his game will explode.

Pradeep: Could become a master pua, but he's gotta seriously increase his sensuality. He's in the friend zone still. Doesn't matter if he got that chick's number on the show because that was FRIENDLY number close. He's interesting but... too interesting. It's giving the woman something to be attracted to, but those things are too exterior to get that deep physical attraction that a pua needs to do fast pulls, sensual selection switching, multiple relationship stuff, etc...

In general, it was a super entertaining show and I'll try to catch another episode if I can.

How to Employ Shaping to the Behavior of A Woman

Tue, 01 Jan 2008 23:00:01 +0000

Today I'd like to introduce a concept about SHAPING.

Shaping includes a number of tools that are used to set a strong precedent of behavior in a girl.

Have you ever been in a situation with a girl, and she talked about how she was loved by her boyfriend? Do you remember feeling motivation to perhaps do the same thing?

Or have you ever been with a girl, and she asked you if you were reliable, honest or had a good relationship with your family?

Do you remember feeling motivated to answer in a way to impress her?

Of course... we've all been there.

What's important here is not the outcome in those situations, but on the fact that you were emotionally compelled to behave in a specific way...

Whether the girl knew it or not (most likely, she DIDN'T) she was SHAPING you.

Hey, this isn't necessarily a bad thing...

People do it to each other all the time.

A lot of time, you are encouraging a girl to behave in a way that is NOT in accordance with your desired outcome.

So starting right now we will change it.

There are a number of different ways on how to start employing shaping in your interactions with girls.

I've split them up into 5 different categories.

Now don't get me wrong.

This is a HUGE topic, and I could literally teach an entire seminar on shaping alone.

So for now I just want to get the seeds planted in your mind so that you can start grasping the higher level ideas, and start to incorporate them into your interactions.

So let's look at the five different categories of shaping.

1. Screening questions.

Screening questions are questions that are designed to:

A) Make a girl to answer a specific way and
B) Start to behave in a manner more congruent with how she just answered you.

There are many types of screening questions, and above all you should use them in the right context.

For example, you wouldn't start a conversation with a woman with the question "Do you consider yourself to be independent?"... but it might come later on.

Screening questions are by far the least subtle and most overt out of all the shaping techniques.

They are easiest to employ right away, but because they cause a sharp emotional response, they may seem transparent and obvious to a girl.

2. Showing that you value certain behaviors or personality traits.

This is very similar to screening questions, except this time you are making a statement.

It's a little less obvious, but it is no where near as subtle as the remaining 3 techniques.

Instead of saying something like "What was the most spontaneous thing you've ever done?" (which is a screening question) You might say something like "Spontaneity is really important to me. It not only keeps things fresh and exciting, but also reminds me of our incredible freedom in life."

Because you are justifying your statement with a truism (it's hard to argue that spontaneity keeps things fresh and exciting), she cannot disagree and will be motivated to agree that spontaneity is important.

And because she's committed to saying spontaneity is important, she will now behave in a way consistent with that.

3. Setting a strong precedent through storytelling.

Now we're getting warmer.

This technique, along with the next two, are very devious.

They are so devious, in fact, that girls use them all the time.

It's funny actually - my sister recently sat in on a recent DiClassified Drills workshop in NYC and I was surprised to discover that she not only agreed with the effectiveness of my techniques, but also - had already used many of them NATURALLY!

Of course this makes sense, seeing that many of my best techniques have been stolen directly from the women I know who have the very best game.

The idea of this 3rd concept is that you will tell a story that demonstrates what standards you expect, so that she can live up to them.

For example, you could say to a girl, very early in the interaction something like:

"One thing that is great about my friend Sarah, is that she is extremely thoughtful. Last night I mentioned that I was thinking of going shopping for a few new shirts, and not two hours later she dropped off this month's copy of GQ magazine on her way to the gym. Only problem now is, I have TOO MANY new ideas for a new outfit."

The beauty of that is, it doesn't even have to be true!

(I'm not going to make a moral decision for you here, I'm sure that you're more than capable. But for the record, these techniques have the exact same effect on a woman whether they are true or not)

4. Pointing out a desired personality trait while ignoring the undesirable.

This is classic shaping, and can be used freely to boost-up existing behaviors and personality traits.

The idea is that - if you see a girl doing something (for example, drinking like CRAZY while out in a bar) you can comment on this in the following way.

Taking this single behavior - drinking like crazy, there are different components to it, some good, some bad.

Let's say you like the free-spirited aspect of it, but you don't like the fact that she may not have a lot of self control...

You could say:

"Wow, you're so much fun! and so-free spirited. It's cool you do things you really want to do, and don't rely for others for direction. You follow your own desires."

By pointing out behaviors, you are in fact rewarding them and amplifying that same behavior in the future.

By selecting the ASPECT of her behaviors you like, and calling attention to them, you are SHAPING the woman's future behavior.

(By the way, the above example is useful when going for a same-night-lay with a girl. You tell her she makes her own decisions and she'll be less likely to listen to her friends when they suggest that she shouldn't go home with you. Sneaky, but also KILLER in the field)

5. Reward calibration

Like for instance, giving a girl cues as to how to perceive you based on the nature of the way you reward her 'good' behavior. This is highly advanced, and I am far beyond the scope of this newsletter.

Just understand that if you have determined what you will acknowledge as "good" behavior from a girl, it is to your advantage to reward her with something you want her to work for or chase after.

This should be either affection, physicality or getting in bed, but NEVER a material or monetary. Breaking this rule is the surest way to create a gold digger!

(YES. Gold diggers are not born gold diggers. They are CREATED on a case by case basis by the men in their lives. See a girl as a gold digger, and for sure she will be.)

So use these techniques properly and with care.

How to convert Fast Pick-Ups Into a Relationships

Tue, 25 Dec 2007 18:16:39 +0000

Sometimes fast lays don't become relationships.

With a fast pick-up this comes a big problem.

As an expert on fast pick-ups I agree to that.

You see, even though guys that can pull these off enjoy not only success with women straight out of a fantasy world and typically get girls obsessed with them but that problem can't be avoided.

Sometimes a fast pick-up becomes a one-night stand, and never converts into a relationship.

Well fine for those who has that intention.

But most of times, you DO want to see the girl again - or possibly start a relationship with her.

Here's something you might not already know - EVERY girl I have slept with in the past 2 years has been under 4 hours.

And EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. wanted to see me again...

Hey, I'm not saying this brag.

The reason why I'm saying this is so that you can realize the immense amount of value I give to you as a client of mine, and to prove a very important point:

"Potential to start a relationship with a girl has NOTHING to do with how fast you sleep with her”

There are three major keys on how to have a continuing intimate relationship with a girl...

And I feel it's time to reveal a few myths about this.

3 Myths about Fast Pick Ups
*****************************

MYTH #1: You must "build comfort" with a girl for 7+ hours before sleeping with her.

As I said, sleeping with a girl has nothing to do with the amount of time you spend with her

In fact, the secret lies in what you do AFTER you sleep with her. And it has almost NOTHING to do with anything you do before you sleep with her

I have got it down to an exact science. A series of actions and behaviors that guarantee you that she will not only see you again, but also be borderline obsessed with you...

Just bring out the natural behaviors that a person can learn in less than five minutes. Nothing fancy, no routines or lines....

Would you like to know the REALITY of this situation?

The reality is some of the hottest, most intelligent women I have dated LOVED the excitement of getting physical really fast.

It's straight out of the movies, and very few guys can pull it off skillfully.

MYTH #2: You need to reassure the girl that you will see her again before sleeping with her.

Many guys try this... they imply that the girl is "relationship material" or that he definitely wants to see her again.

Man... what a way to kill intrigue right off the bat...

Guys do this and tend to come on wayyyy to strong. They appear too interested, too needy, to desperate to get a girlfriend.

But at the same time you should NEVER imply that it's a one night stand, or that you're just interested in bed.

This isn't very effective either...

MYTH #3: You have to be great in bed the first time you sleep with a girl.

One of my good friends, Julian, who is admittedly bad in bed and only lasts for about 3 minutes but converts girls like *CRAZY*.

The point is, although he is NOT good in bed (his choice), but STILL gets girls so crazy about him, they won't leave him alone.... (so he ends up playing Gears of War on his XBox360 while they sit there naked, watching him.)

So you may be thinking...

"BUT VIN, THIS IS TOO ADVANCED, I STILL HAVE
PROBLEMS PICKING UP AND SLEEPING WITH HER!"

I understand.

But listen. This is important information that you're going to need soon.

And let's be honest - when you DO start sleeping with girls - wouldn't you rather have the choice to see them again or not?

That is what my point is.

Tips on How to be Great with Women

Wed, 19 Dec 2007 23:30:46 +0000

There are men that will not be great when it comes to women.

"What?!"

You might be thinking I'm crazy, but it's true.

A lot of men just can't be there.

And it's not because they're not smart enough or somehow defective...

The truth is, it's a subconscious choice that they have made unknowingly.

Now I'm here to help in making sure that you are or will not one of those guys.

What you will hear from me may probably not be hear from other gurus because it's such a very subtle but very powerful fix that most leave it out of the equation.

Let me tell you about Matt. He is a good guy and likes to socialize.Actually he has taken a bootcamp with another one of the pickup companies. But Matt still doesn't get the success he really wants; in fact he's not successful at all.

"Vin, why don't you help him!?"

There are a couple reasons why I don't help Matt out. One being he's too set in his ways and is stubborn.

BUT, that's not the real reason. If he was only stubborn I'd have an easy time changing his mind about things.

The real reason why I can't help him is the same reason why he isn't successful with women.

I've already said Matt's a good guy, but every time I talk to him I get the feeling like he wants something from me. In fact a lot of our common friends have said the same thing to me about him.

We don't like hanging out with him and neither do women.

Matt always give this vibe of having a hidden motive. He talks to you like a friend, which is great, but he naturally gives off a vibe that says to me that he's trying to take knowledge, power and fun from me.

The same thing happens when he's talking to girls. He treats them in a friendly manner and is funny but always gives off this vibe that on another level he has an underlying motive.

Having intentions with women isn't a bad thing. If you express your sensual desire openly women will accept it, especially if you have tight game. It may even turn them on. IN FACT it will skyrocket your conversion rate if you do it the right way.

But if you hide your intentions and you come off as creepy and weird. Women won't trust you or feel secure being around you alone. You could be the best actor in the world but... THEY WILL KNOW.

Being creepy is the "Death" card in the Tarot deck of your love life. This will destroy any chance of success you might have.

Now you know what might be going wrong. Let's go fix it.

The first thing you need to do is to begin being fun and unattached to the outcome whenever you can. This isn't about giving back money. This could be anything from telling a great story to a group or being a great host to a bunch of your friends. It could also be a compliment (in the right way of course) or a tease that will spike emotions in way that is fun to a girl.

Be out there talking to women not just because you want to pickup, but because women are amazing and fun and interesting and wonderful.

Next is you need to start being clear about your intentions. This doesn't mean directly telling a women "My purpose of talking to you is so that I can get into your pants." That's a sure way to kill your pickup as fast as being creepy.

There are small subtle changes you can make in your behavior that will affect how your intentions are perceived and if you're congruent with what you're saying. There are so many small fixes that I could write a novel on them.

Do you want to read a novel about fixing your creepy vibe and then taking the months to use it that it will require? I didn't think so. I wouldn't want to spend the months writing that novel either.